1. Make sure your victim's "guilty secret" actually is:
a - guilty, and
b- a secret.
It doesn't help if you yourself have revealed the "secret" to the public over a year ago.
2. Don't accuse your victim of stalking you when:
a - stalking isn't defined in law
b- they aren't stalking you
3. Don't confuse fair comment on, and legitimate questioning of, your motives, methods and legitimacy with stalking or harassment
4. Don't engage in making claims of stalking and harassment, with threats of legal action, when you yourself have:
a - a proven record of making malicious communications to your intended victim, and
b - a publicly visible record of making repeated threats of physical violence against your intended victim